Maria Mojo Mondays: Stop Letting Them Rent Space in Your Mind

Hey, you.

Let’s get real. It’s time to take your power back - because when you let someone else’s actions suck the joy out of your life, you’re handing them the keys to your happiness.

I’ve been where you are. Disappointed. Let down. Frustrated. Confused. The feelings are real, and sometimes it hurts like hell. Maybe you feel it now, too.

But guess what? They don’t get to control your future. You get to decide what happens next.

I had a client recently who has been really making progress. She was coming into her own, stepping into her power, living a healthier, more joyous life. Her mindset was stronger than ever. Her pivoting skills when life’s bumps happened - getting better and better each and every day!

And then—bam—she’s hit with the harsh reality. This guy. The one who cheated on her over 10 years ago. The one who she thought had changed. They reunited, wiser, more mature, and ready to give it another shot. But now? He’s done it again. History repeats itself—and this time, he’s ghosting her.

Her mind went to that dark place we’ve all been. What did I do wrong? Why wasn’t I enough? Why did he hurt me again? WTF! She keeps on looking at who he is with right now on social media. She’s pissed. She’s down. She’s discouraged. She IS HURT!

But here’s the truth: People can hurt us, but it’s our choice whether we stay hurt.

We can feel the emotions, sure. And we should. But we cannot let them control the narrative of our lives. This guy? He’s moved on. He’s living his life. So why are you still letting him write the story of your happiness?

Are you going to let this one person define your worth?

💥 Mojo Truth: People Can Hurt You, But They Don’t Get To Own You.

They can hurt you. They can betray you. They can ghost you. But the minute you let them control how you feel, they still have a piece of you. And honey, it’s time to take it back.

Here’s the deal: They’ve moved on with their lives. So why are you letting them rent space in your head?

You’re better than that.

You get to decide if their actions have any more impact on your future. You get to decide if they still have permission to show up in your life, even if they’re not physically present.

🧠 Mojo Reframe of the Week: No More Space for Ghosts.

We all have that one person, don’t we? The one who pops in and out of our lives, leaving us with a trail of emotional wreckage. And guess what? No more.

It’s time to stop giving them mental real estate.

The story you tell yourself about what they did — that’s the story you’re living. But it doesn’t have to be.

So what if you flipped the script?

Not: "I’m stuck in the pain they left behind."
But: “I’m stronger than the hurt they caused.”

Not: "They don’t care about me."
But: “I deserve better, and I’m ready to create that for myself.”

⚡ Real Talk for a Second...
When you find out that someone is doing the exact same thing they did before — ghosting, cheating, leaving you in the dust — it hurts. Like a punch to the gut.

But here’s the thing you need to hear: Their actions are a reflection of them, not you.

And while you’re sitting there, letting them have all this mental space, they’re living their life. They’ve moved on. You can too. And the more you focus on their mistakes, the less you focus on your future.

💥 Mojo Mindset Tips to Take Your Power Back:

1️⃣ Feel the Hurt, But Don’t Let It Settle.
Yes, feel the emotions. Cry. Scream. Feel it. But don’t let it stay. You are not defined by someone else’s actions.

2️⃣ Take Back Your Mental Space.
They don’t deserve to control your thoughts. Reclaim that space. Fill it with joy. Fill it with YOUR vision for the future.

3️⃣ Shift the Narrative.
Instead of focusing on what they did, focus on what you’re doing. Your future is in your hands, not theirs. Every time you think about their actions, replace that thought with something empowering.

4️⃣ Forgive. Not for Them, But for You.
I know this is a difficult one. And honestly, I care so much for this client who was hurt again by that boyfriend that part of me doesn’t want her to forgive him (because the mentality is “he doesn’t deserve that”), but I know she has to. For her own happiness and wellbeing. For her mental health. For her future to thrive.

Forgiving doesn’t mean they were right. It means you’re done holding onto the weight of their mistakes. Let that sh*t go.

5️⃣ Refuse to Be the Victim.
You are NOT a victim. You are a badass. Take your power back, now. Their actions are not a reflection of your worth.

🗣️ Final Mojo Boost:

You know what sucks? Letting someone who hurt you stay in control of your life. They get to move on, but you’re still stuck in their emotional drama? Hell no.

The power to move forward is in your hands. You get to decide what’s next.

So, are you going to keep letting them rent space in your head? Or are you going to take back that power and show the world just how much you can thrive — no matter what anyone else does?

Let’s make the choice. Right now.

Sending you abundant love & a big Maria Mojo HUG,
— Maria Lesetz
Your Mindset & Resilience Coach

P.S. If you're ready to stop letting anyone else dictate your happiness and take back your power, let’s talk. You’ve got everything you need to break free, and I’m here to help.

🔗 Grab a spot on my calendar, and let’s make it happen.