Maria Mojo Mondays: It's OK to Not be OK

Hey Mindset Maverick,

I want to say something clearly and without trying to dress it up.

It is OK to not be OK.

Not in a dramatic way.
Not in a give-up way.
Not in a stay-there-forever way.

But in a deeply human way.

There are days when your energy is lower.
Days when your heart feels heavier.
Days when motivation is quiet.
Days when you are doing the right things and still feel off.

That does not mean you are broken.
It does not mean you are regressing.
It does not mean mindset “isn’t working.”

It means you are alive.

And right now, many people are feeling this more than usual.

You may be carrying the weight of what is happening beyond your own life. Tragic news. Anger. Fear. Grief. Loud opinions. Deep division. A sense that things feel harsher, colder, and more unstable than they used to.

And this moment did not start with one incident.

For many, it feels like a steady drumbeat. Decision after decision. Policies and power moves that seem to go against basic humanity and decency. Moments that make you pause and think, “What is happening to us?”

When these things pile up, frustration, sadness, anger, and emotional exhaustion are natural responses. Those emotions are not signs of weakness or negativity. They are signals. They come from caring. They come from values. They come from wanting a world that feels safer, fairer, and more humane.

If you have noticed your emotional bandwidth shrinking lately, or a low-grade heaviness that does not seem tied to one specific thing, you are not imagining it.

This is what happens when the collective climate presses on the individual nervous system.

The Lie We Have Been Sold

Somewhere along the way, many of us learned a quiet rule: If you are doing personal growth correctly, you should feel positive, strong, clear, and steady most of the time.

That is NOT resilience.
That is emotional suppression wearing a self-help costume.

Real resilience includes the ability to say,
“Today feels heavy… and I trust myself anyway.”
Or,
“Today feels overwhelming… and it is OK to allow myself to feel it.”

The Maria Mojo Reframe

Feeling not OK does not require fixing.

It requires listening.

When you stop fighting the feeling, something interesting happens. The pressure eases. The nervous system settles. Your body feels safer.

Not because the world suddenly changed.
But because you stopped telling yourself that something was wrong with you or that you are supposed to feel something else.

Being OK with not being OK is not weakness.
It is emotional maturity.

It is strength that does not need armor.

And here is the key part.

It is healthy to acknowledge these emotions.
It is not healthy to let them consume you or become your default state.

Living in constant overwhelm, frustration, or anger takes a real toll on your well-being. On your nervous system. On your body. On your ability to think clearly, feel grounded, and move forward.

The work is not to suppress how you feel.
The work is to learn how to move through it without getting stuck there.

A Grounding Moment for You

If today feels heavy, flat, or emotionally noisy, try this.

Place one hand on your chest.
Take a slow breath in.
Then an even slower breath out.

Say quietly or internally:
“This moment does not define me.”
“It’s ok for me to feel it all.”

That is it.

No affirmations.
No pep talk.
No pressure to feel better immediately.

Just permission to be where you are, without letting it run the show.

Mojo Coaching Insight

Most people do not get stuck because life is hard.

They get stuck because they judge themselves for how they feel about it, or because those emotions take over without support or tools.

When self-judgment softens, movement returns. Clarity returns. Energy returns.

You do not rise by forcing positivity.
You rise by learning how to regulate, reframe, and gently guide yourself back to center.

This is a skill.
And it is absolutely learnable.

Real Talk

If you are navigating grief, change, uncertainty, burnout, caregiving, identity shifts, or simply a season of “I do not know what comes next,” hear this.

You are in a human moment.
It is OK to not have all the answers.
It is OK to not feel happy all the time.

And it is also important to take care of your emotional well-being so these moments do not consume you.

You can still build a beautiful, meaningful life without feeling amazing every single day.

That is not a contradiction.
That is wisdom.

Take care of yourself this week.
Not by fixing.
But by allowing, processing, and choosing what supports you best.

If this message resonates, you’re welcome to reply to this email and share how you’re feeling or what feels most challenging for you right now.

You don’t need to have it all figured out. Sometimes naming it is the first act of care.

I read every reply. 💙✨

With grounded truth and compassion,
Maria Lesetz
Your Mindset & Resilience Coach